When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!
That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; I had lost my heart to a lovely
girl called Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, 30% shares of my company and the car. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly.
Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a months time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy.
Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Dew about my wife s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully. My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset.
I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest.. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy
was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me; she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart.
Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished. Then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death does us apart.
Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote: "I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart"
The small details of our lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, the property, the bank balance that matters. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you,
but if you do, you just might save a marriage.
Relationships are made not to exploit, not to be broken.
We teach some by what we say
We teach some more by what we do
But we teach most by what we are
- Unknown
You don't get to choose how you are going to die, or when, but, you can decide how you're going to live, here and now.
Heart attacks : Drink warm water
Please be a true friend and send this article to all your friends you care about.
For those who like to drink cold water, this article is applicable to you. It is nice to have a cup of cold drink after a meal. However, the cold water will solidify the oily stuff that you have just consumed. It will slow down the digestion. Once this "sludge" reacts with the acid, it will break down and be absorbed by the intestine faster than the solid food. It will line the intestine. Very soon, this will turn into fats and lead to cancer. It is best to drink hot soup or warm water after a meal.
A serious note about heart attacks - You should know that not every heart attack symptom is going to be the left arm hurting. Be aware of intense pain in the jaw line.
You may never have the first chest pain during the course of a heart attack. Nausea and intense sweating are also common symptoms. 60% of people who have a heart attack while they are asleep do not wake up. Pain in the jaw can wake you from a sound sleep. Let's be careful and be aware. The more we know the better chance we could survive.
A cardiologist says if everyone who reads this message sends it to 10 people, you can be sure that we'll save at least one life. Read this & Send the link to a friend. It could save a life. So, please be a true friend and send this article to all your friends you care about.
Reason for inflation: learn from story
Nice Logic - It May Work !!
A man eats two eggs each morning for breakfast. When he goes to the
Kirana store he pays Rs. 12 a dozen. Since a dozen eggs won't last a
week he normally buys two dozens at a time. One day while buying eggs
he notices that the price has risen to Rs. 16. The next time he buys
groceries, eggs are Rs. 22 a dozen.
When asked to explain the price of eggs the store owner says, 'The
price has gone up and I have to raise my price accordingly'. This
store buys 100 dozen eggs a day. He checked around for a better price
and all the distributors have raised their prices. The distributors
have begun to buy from the huge egg farms. The small egg farms have
been driven out of business. The huge egg farms sell 100,000 dozen
eggs a day to distributors. With no competition, they can set the
price as they see fit. The distributors then have to raise their
prices to the grocery stores. And on and on and on.
As the man kept buying eggs the price kept going up. He saw the big
egg trucks delivering 100 dozen eggs each day. Nothing changed there.
He checked out the huge egg farms and found they were selling 100,000
dozen eggs to the distributors daily. Nothing had changed but the
price of eggs.
Then week before Diwali the price of eggs shot up to Rs. 40 a dozen.
Again he asked the grocery owner why and was told, 'Cakes and baking
for the holiday'. The huge egg farmers know there will be a lot of
baking going on and more eggs will be used. Hence, the price of eggs
goes up. Expect the same thing at Christmas and other times when
family cooking, baking, etc. happen.
This pattern continues until the price of eggs is Rs. 60 a dozen. The
man says, ' There must be something we can do about the price of
eggs'.
He starts talking to all the people in his town and they decide to
stop buying eggs. This didn't work because everyone needed eggs.
Finally, the man suggested only buying what you need. He ate 2 eggs a
day. On the way home from work he would stop at the grocery and buy
two eggs. Everyone in town started buying 2 or 3 eggs a day.
The grocery store owner began complaining that he had too many eggs in
his cooler. He told the distributor that he didn't need any eggs.
Maybe wouldn't need any all week.
The distributor had eggs piling up at his warehouse. He told the huge
egg farms that he didn't have any room for eggs would not need any for
at least two weeks.
At the egg farm, the chickens just kept on laying eggs. To relieve
the pressure, the huge egg farm told the distributor that they could
buy the eggs at a lower price.
The distributor said, ' I don't have the room for the %$&^*&% eggs
even if they were free'. The distributor told the grocery store
owner that he would lower the price of the eggs if the store would
start buying
again.
The grocery store owner said, 'I don't have room for more eggs. The
customers are only buying 2 or 3 eggs at a time. Now if you were to
drop the price of eggs back down to the original price, the customers
would start buying by the dozen again'.
The distributors sent that proposal to the huge egg farmers but the
egg farmers liked the price they were getting for their eggs but,
those chickens just kept on laying. Finally, the egg farmers lowered
the
price of their eggs. But only a few paisa.
The customers still bought 2 or 3 eggs at a time. They said, 'when the
price of eggs gets down to where it was before, we will start buying
by the dozen.'
Slowly the price of eggs started dropping. The distributors had to
slash their prices to make room for the eggs coming from the egg
farmers.
The egg farmers cut their prices because the distributors wouldn't buy
at a higher price than they were selling eggs for. Anyway, they had
full warehouses and wouldn't need eggs for quite a while.
And those chickens kept on laying.
Eventually, the egg farmers cut their prices because they were
throwing away eggs they couldn't sell.
The distributors started buying again because the eggs were priced to
where the stores could afford to sell them at the lower price.
And the customers starting buying by the dozen again.
Now, transpose this analogy to the gasoline industry.
What if everyone only bought Rs 200.00 worth of Petrol each time they
pulled to the pump? The dealer's tanks would stay semi full all the
time. The dealers wouldn't have room for the gas coming from the huge
tanks. The tank farms wouldn't have room for the petrol coming from
the refining plants. And the refining plants wouldn't have room for
the oil being off loaded from the huge tankers coming from the oil
fiends.
Just Rs 200.00 each time you buy gas. Don't fill up the tank of your
car. You may have to stop for gas twice a week, but the price should
come down.
Think about it.
Also, don't buy anything else at the fuel station; don't give them any
more of your hard earned money than what you spend on gas, until the
prices come down...'
...Just think of this concept for a while.
A man eats two eggs each morning for breakfast. When he goes to the
Kirana store he pays Rs. 12 a dozen. Since a dozen eggs won't last a
week he normally buys two dozens at a time. One day while buying eggs
he notices that the price has risen to Rs. 16. The next time he buys
groceries, eggs are Rs. 22 a dozen.
When asked to explain the price of eggs the store owner says, 'The
price has gone up and I have to raise my price accordingly'. This
store buys 100 dozen eggs a day. He checked around for a better price
and all the distributors have raised their prices. The distributors
have begun to buy from the huge egg farms. The small egg farms have
been driven out of business. The huge egg farms sell 100,000 dozen
eggs a day to distributors. With no competition, they can set the
price as they see fit. The distributors then have to raise their
prices to the grocery stores. And on and on and on.
As the man kept buying eggs the price kept going up. He saw the big
egg trucks delivering 100 dozen eggs each day. Nothing changed there.
He checked out the huge egg farms and found they were selling 100,000
dozen eggs to the distributors daily. Nothing had changed but the
price of eggs.
Then week before Diwali the price of eggs shot up to Rs. 40 a dozen.
Again he asked the grocery owner why and was told, 'Cakes and baking
for the holiday'. The huge egg farmers know there will be a lot of
baking going on and more eggs will be used. Hence, the price of eggs
goes up. Expect the same thing at Christmas and other times when
family cooking, baking, etc. happen.
This pattern continues until the price of eggs is Rs. 60 a dozen. The
man says, ' There must be something we can do about the price of
eggs'.
He starts talking to all the people in his town and they decide to
stop buying eggs. This didn't work because everyone needed eggs.
Finally, the man suggested only buying what you need. He ate 2 eggs a
day. On the way home from work he would stop at the grocery and buy
two eggs. Everyone in town started buying 2 or 3 eggs a day.
The grocery store owner began complaining that he had too many eggs in
his cooler. He told the distributor that he didn't need any eggs.
Maybe wouldn't need any all week.
The distributor had eggs piling up at his warehouse. He told the huge
egg farms that he didn't have any room for eggs would not need any for
at least two weeks.
At the egg farm, the chickens just kept on laying eggs. To relieve
the pressure, the huge egg farm told the distributor that they could
buy the eggs at a lower price.
The distributor said, ' I don't have the room for the %$&^*&% eggs
even if they were free'. The distributor told the grocery store
owner that he would lower the price of the eggs if the store would
start buying
again.
The grocery store owner said, 'I don't have room for more eggs. The
customers are only buying 2 or 3 eggs at a time. Now if you were to
drop the price of eggs back down to the original price, the customers
would start buying by the dozen again'.
The distributors sent that proposal to the huge egg farmers but the
egg farmers liked the price they were getting for their eggs but,
those chickens just kept on laying. Finally, the egg farmers lowered
the
price of their eggs. But only a few paisa.
The customers still bought 2 or 3 eggs at a time. They said, 'when the
price of eggs gets down to where it was before, we will start buying
by the dozen.'
Slowly the price of eggs started dropping. The distributors had to
slash their prices to make room for the eggs coming from the egg
farmers.
The egg farmers cut their prices because the distributors wouldn't buy
at a higher price than they were selling eggs for. Anyway, they had
full warehouses and wouldn't need eggs for quite a while.
And those chickens kept on laying.
Eventually, the egg farmers cut their prices because they were
throwing away eggs they couldn't sell.
The distributors started buying again because the eggs were priced to
where the stores could afford to sell them at the lower price.
And the customers starting buying by the dozen again.
Now, transpose this analogy to the gasoline industry.
What if everyone only bought Rs 200.00 worth of Petrol each time they
pulled to the pump? The dealer's tanks would stay semi full all the
time. The dealers wouldn't have room for the gas coming from the huge
tanks. The tank farms wouldn't have room for the petrol coming from
the refining plants. And the refining plants wouldn't have room for
the oil being off loaded from the huge tankers coming from the oil
fiends.
Just Rs 200.00 each time you buy gas. Don't fill up the tank of your
car. You may have to stop for gas twice a week, but the price should
come down.
Think about it.
Also, don't buy anything else at the fuel station; don't give them any
more of your hard earned money than what you spend on gas, until the
prices come down...'
...Just think of this concept for a while.
Effort : where to make thats more important
A giant ship engine failed. The ship's owners tried one expert after another, but none of them could figure but how to fix the engine.
Then they brought in an old man who had been fixing ships since he was a young. He carried a large bag of tools with him, and when he arrived, he immediately went to work. He inspected the engine very carefully, top to bottom.
Two of the ship's owners were there, watching this man, hoping he would know what to do. After looking things over, the old man reached into his bag and pulled out a small hammer. He gently tapped something. Instantly, the engine lurched into life. He carefully put his hammer away. The engine was fixed!
A week later, the owners received a bill from the old man for ten thousand dollars.
'What?!' the owners exclaimed. 'He hardly did anything!'
So they wrote the old man a note saying, 'Please send us an itemized bill.'
The man sent a bill that read:
Tapping with a hammer...... ......... ........ $ 2.00
Knowing where to tap.......... . ......... ...... $ 9,998.00
Effort is important, but knowing where to make an effort makes all the difference
Then they brought in an old man who had been fixing ships since he was a young. He carried a large bag of tools with him, and when he arrived, he immediately went to work. He inspected the engine very carefully, top to bottom.
Two of the ship's owners were there, watching this man, hoping he would know what to do. After looking things over, the old man reached into his bag and pulled out a small hammer. He gently tapped something. Instantly, the engine lurched into life. He carefully put his hammer away. The engine was fixed!
A week later, the owners received a bill from the old man for ten thousand dollars.
'What?!' the owners exclaimed. 'He hardly did anything!'
So they wrote the old man a note saying, 'Please send us an itemized bill.'
The man sent a bill that read:
Tapping with a hammer...... ......... ........ $ 2.00
Knowing where to tap.......... . ......... ...... $ 9,998.00
Effort is important, but knowing where to make an effort makes all the difference
Boss Kidnapped so contribution
Employees of a Company are all worried. Some are roaming around. Some are in loud discussions during office time.....
Some Trainees, who had just joined, notice this and enquire about what happened to a senior employee, they ask, "What's going on?"
"Terrorists have kidnapped our Boss"
They're asking for Rs.1 Crores ransom, otherwise they're going to douse him with petrol and set him on fire.
We're going from desk to desk, taking up a collection."
One Trainee asks, "How much is everyone giving, on average?
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"About 1 litre."
Some Trainees, who had just joined, notice this and enquire about what happened to a senior employee, they ask, "What's going on?"
"Terrorists have kidnapped our Boss"
They're asking for Rs.1 Crores ransom, otherwise they're going to douse him with petrol and set him on fire.
We're going from desk to desk, taking up a collection."
One Trainee asks, "How much is everyone giving, on average?
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Indian Prime ministers till date....
15-Aug-1947 : 27-May-1964 Jawaharlal Nehru Indian National Congress 27-May-1964 : 9-Jun-1964 Gulzari Lal Nanda Indian National Congress (acting) 9-Jun-1964 : 11-Jan-1966 Lal Bahadur Shastri Indian National Congress 11-Jan-1966 : 24-Jan-1966 Gulzari Lal Nanda Indian National Congress (acting) 24-Jan-1966 : 24-Mar-1977 Indira Gandhi Indian National Congress 24-Mar-1977 : 28-Jul-1979 Morarji Desai Janata Party 28-Jul-1979 : 14-Jan-1980 Choudhary Charan Singh Janata Party 14-Jan-1980 : 31-Oct-1984 Indira Gandhi Indian National Congress 31-Oct-1984 : 2-Dec-1989 Rajiv Gandhi Congress I 2-Dec-1989 : 10-Nov-1990 Vishwanath Pratap Singh Janata Dal 10-Nov-1990 : 21-Jun-1991 Chandra Shekhar Janata Dal 21-Jan-1991 : 16-May-1996 Narasimha Rao Congress I 16-May-1996 : 1-Jun-1996 Atal Bihari Vajpayee Bharatiya Janata Party 1-Jun-1996 : 21-Apr-1997 H. D. Deve Gowda Janata Dal 21-Apr-1997 : 19-Mar-1998 Inder Kumar Gujral Janata Dal 19-Mar-1998 : 22-May-2004 Atal Bihari Vajpayee Bharatiya Janata Party 22-May-2004 : present Manmohan Singh Congress I
Upcasting and downcasting in C#
Upcasting converts an object of a specialized type to a more general type.
Downcasting converts an object from a general type to a more specialized type.
BankAccount ba1, ba2 = new BankAccount("John", 250.0M, 0.01);
LotteryAccount la1, la2 = new LotteryAccount("Bent", 100.0M);
ba1 = la2; // upcasting - OK
// la1 = ba2; // downcasting - Illegal at compile time
// la1 = (LotteryAccount) ba2; // downcasting - Illegal at run time
la1 = (LotteryAccount) ba1; // downcasting - OK. ba1 refers to a LotteryAccount
Downcasting converts an object from a general type to a more specialized type.
BankAccount ba1, ba2 = new BankAccount("John", 250.0M, 0.01);
LotteryAccount la1, la2 = new LotteryAccount("Bent", 100.0M);
ba1 = la2; // upcasting - OK
// la1 = ba2; // downcasting - Illegal at compile time
// la1 = (LotteryAccount) ba2; // downcasting - Illegal at run time
la1 = (LotteryAccount) ba1; // downcasting - OK. ba1 refers to a LotteryAccount
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